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Hugh Jackman, Reese Witherspoon, George Clooney, Matthew McConaughey, Russell Crowe and Cameron Diaz. The list goes on. Now I am sure that you know at least a few of these names, if not all of them. Maybe you have caught them recently on the big screen. What though, can you learn from them – in terms of Dating? Quite a lot actually, so listen up.

Let’s move on to the bigger picture. Pick your favorite actor. It doesn’t have to be from the list above. One, two, three or more. It does not matter. Picked one? So what is it you like about them in particular? What makes them the stand out performer in your eyes?

OK, so hopefully you’ve picked one or two now. I’m sure you didn’t have too much trouble. Slow down and wait a moment though. It’s time to take a BIG STEP BACK. Why did you choose this actor or actress? Is it their ability to dazzle on the big screen alone?

I’ll bet the majority of you made your choices based on their acting skills alone? Of course, this makes sense. They are actors, after all. You pay money to go watch them and you have certain ‘expectations’ when doing so. Now, let’s forget, for a moment, they are actors. Totally forget their ’status’ and the ‘image’ all together. Imagine they were the worst actor in the world and that you only know them as a ‘person.’ Who now is your top pick? It can be more than one again. It’s difficult I know.

Maybe your choices have changed? Maybe they haven’t? It does not matter. It’s time to talk about their people powers and what you can learn from them in terms of ‘attitude’ and being ‘approachable.’ More specifically – The Good Dating Attitude.
Let’s talk autographs then. Maybe the actor you choose is the best in the world? Maybe they are the worst? Maybe you have no idea?

Johnny Depp is one such Actor that certainly knows where his bread was buttered. Despite him being conflicted about the Hollywood System and fame, he shows nothing but love for his fans. Catch him in a crowded airport, and he’ll sign an autograph for you while carrying his luggage. No doubt his fans love him for this. George Clooney is another who will happily joke around and sign autographs for his legions of fans.

What about the other end of scale? Then, of course, there is Cameron Diaz. Cameron think she’s far too smart for her silly fans. Generally, if you ask her for an autograph, she’ll refuse. Furthermore, she’ll probably lecture you about how dumb autographs really are.

So what does this have to do with dating? It is a great example of how to be ‘approachable’ for a start. Remember now, there will always only be two ways to get a ‘date.’ One is to ‘approach’ and the other is to be ‘approachable.’ So if you don’t want approach – why not at least make yourself approachable? Gives you a much better chance doesn’t it? Body language should never be underestimated on this front, either. Smile and make eye contact. Any is better than none at all. Your confidence will grow as a result, giving you a fantastic chance of the ‘date’ going well.

Having a good ‘dating attitude’ is the main point, though, to take away from our autograph example. The point being – give everybody a chance from the start. Remember, like you, they are in the same boat. Even more so, if it’s a first date.

Judging your date, before you’ve even spoken, will not help. Sure, of course it’s a judgemental world we live in. We all know that. However, you will certainly give yourself the best possible chance if you START off with this ‘good attitude.’ Of course, if you don’t start with this attitude then forget it. The date is destined to be a disaster.

What if the date is still a disaster? Even after this? Nothing more you can do. You’ve gone in with the right attitude and that’s all you can control. More importantly, don’t just make this a ‘one date wonder’ showing of ‘good attitude.’ If the date didn’t go well, you need to clear it from your mind. Try not to take these negative thoughts into the next date. It will only ruin your chances. You gave yourself the best possible chance and that is all that you can control.

So, yes….you can learn ‘Good Dating Attitude’ from Mr Johnny Depp.

Hugh Jackman, Reese Witherspoon, George Clooney, Matthew McConaughey, Russell Crowe and Cameron Diaz. The list goes on. Now I am sure that you know at least a few of these names, if not all of them. Maybe you have caught them recently on the big screen. What though, can you learn from them – in terms of Dating? Quite a lot actually, so listen up.

Let’s move on to the bigger picture. Pick your favorite actor. It doesn’t have to be from the list above. One, two, three or more. It does not matter. Picked one? So what is it you like about them in particular? What makes them the stand out performer in your eyes?

OK, so hopefully you’ve picked one or two now. I’m sure you didn’t have too much trouble. Slow down and wait a moment though. It’s time to take a BIG STEP BACK. Why did you choose this actor or actress? Is it their ability to dazzle on the big screen alone?
I’ll bet the majority of you made your choices based on their acting skills alone? Of course, this makes sense. They are actors, after all. You pay money to go watch them and you have certain ‘expectations’ when doing so. Now, let’s forget, for a moment, they are actors. Totally forget their ’status’ and the ‘image’ all together. Imagine they were the worst actor in the world and that you only know them as a ‘person.’ Who now is your top pick? It can be more than one again. It’s difficult I know.

Maybe your choices have changed? Maybe they haven’t? It does not matter. It’s time to talk about their people powers and what you can learn from them in terms of ‘attitude’ and being ‘approachable.’ More specifically – The Good Dating Attitude.

Let’s talk autographs then. Maybe the actor you choose is the best in the world? Maybe they are the worst? Maybe you have no idea?

Johnny Depp is one such Actor that certainly knows where his bread was buttered. Despite him being conflicted about the Hollywood System and fame, he shows nothing but love for his fans. Catch him in a crowded airport, and he’ll sign an autograph for you while carrying his luggage. No doubt his fans love him for this. George Clooney is another who will happily joke around and sign autographs for his legions of fans.

What about the other end of scale? Then, of course, there is Cameron Diaz. Cameron think she’s far too smart for her silly fans. Generally, if you ask her for an autograph, she’ll refuse. Furthermore, she’ll probably lecture you about how dumb autographs really are.

So what does this have to do with dating? It is a great example of how to be ‘approachable’ for a start. Remember now, there will always only be two ways to get a ‘date.’ One is to ‘approach’ and the other is to be ‘approachable.’ So if you don’t want approach – why not at least make yourself approachable? Gives you a much better chance doesn’t it? Body language should never be underestimated on this front, either. Smile and make eye contact. Any is better than none at all. Your confidence will grow as a result, giving you a fantastic chance of the ‘date’ going well.

Having a good ‘dating attitude’ is the main point, though, to take away from our autograph example. The point being – give everybody a chance from the start. Remember, like you, they are in the same boat. Even more so, if it’s a first date.

Judging your date, before you’ve even spoken, will not help. Sure, of course it’s a judgemental world we live in. We all know that. However, you will certainly give yourself the best possible chance if you START off with this ‘good attitude.’ Of course, if you don’t start with this attitude then forget it. The date is destined to be a disaster.

What if the date is still a disaster? Even after this? Nothing more you can do. You’ve gone in with the right attitude and that’s all you can control. More importantly, don’t just make this a ‘one date wonder’ showing of ‘good attitude.’ If the date didn’t go well, you need to clear it from your mind. Try not to take these negative thoughts into the next date. It will only ruin your chances. You gave yourself the best possible chance and that is all that you can control.

So, yes….you can learn ‘Good Dating Attitude’ from Mr Johnny Depp.

When used correctly, arrogance can be an amazing tool to help you attract women. When you’re slightly arrogant, females want to find a redeeming softer side to you. If you’re too arrogant or rude you will blow your chances.
Let’s look at Simon Cowell for a minute. When we first saw Simon on American Idol our first instinct was to hate the guy. We all said, “What an arrogant bastard”. Now us guys thought that and probably never gave it a second thought, but women around the world starting digging deeper. They thought, “There’s got to be something more to this guy”. Then as the season went on Simon began to give credit where credit was do. What began to happen was incredible. Whenever Simon gave a compliment, the audience and all of America (particularly women) began to cheer like crazy. Why did this happen? The reason is because people were so excited to see that redeeming quality they were searching for shine through. They knew there was some good in this guy. They found themselves wanting to like him. Randy Jackson who never played the mysterious, arrogant role at all didn’t get nearly the same response when he gave kudos to a contestant.

The key is to balance this confident arrogance with a sweet, vulnerable side. You can actually create a pattern with women where they’ll start being nice to you and doing all kinds of favors for you just to see that redeeming side of you peek through. It’s an amazing thing to watch when it’s done right. Personally I hate the idea of playing the arrogant role because I’m genuinely a nice, humble guy but it really works so I do it anyway. It even annoys me that women react well to this kind of attitude but unfortunately it’s a fact of life.

Remember not to be mean for the sake of being mean. I wouldn’t go as far as Simon, who actually crossed the line sometimes and became mean. Remember – you don’t have months and months on a TV show to redeem yourself like he does so you can’t afford to go as far with it as he has. But done properly, arrogance can really work for you.

A simple way you can begin to create the kind of dynamic that Simon does is to start calling girls out on things. Start “breaking her chops” in a playful way. When they are being lazy, call them lazy. If you don’t like her outfit, say, “I’m not really feeling that. You should wear something else”. Please don’t take this as a cue to go out and be MEAN to women. Instead it’s a cue to go out and be HONEST with women. Her behavior will actually begin to cater to making you happy and she’ll start working hard to bring the complimentary side out of you.

“Hey should men pay on every date?” You actually can use this as a conversation starter by asking women their opinion on this very topic.

What are the common answers we generally get by asking this question?

Some people would say that men should not act stingy.

We also have people like David Deangelo or Swinggcat who are from the opinion that paying on dates is a form of supplication, i.e. it is a way of trying to please women. And then you should almost never pay on dates or you should almost never buy women dinner.

I suggest this first rule: if you’re the kind of guy who tends to pay on dates and that you have underlying motives…Stop doing it! Why ? Because this is a demonstration of a lack of integrity. And lack of integrity is a huge turn-off for women. In other terms, you’re acting from a place of manipulation as you’re trying to elicit a specific response in women by trying to please them or by buying their affection. Another underlying motive men often have is trying to impress women by boasting about their work accomplishments or their new car.

If you’re being yourself and that’s part of who you are… then it’s ok. You may still want to dig deeper though. Pay attention to your hidden values. How is your identity constructed? Does it rely on having money and materialistic possessions?

Then you can gain insight by positioning yourself on the lover-provider continuum. The provider type is the “future good husband”. He has a good job and can take care of the family’s financial security. He has this “nice guy” side to him. And the lover type? If you haven’t watched the movie Don Juan de Marco with Johnny Depp and Marlon Brando, then watch it and make sure not to miss the opening scene in the restaurant. I can tell you Depp’s character did not pay for dinner…

We can also get the insight of the female dating expert Tiffany Taylor who states: “We often wield the power at the beginning of the relationship simply because tradition dictates that a man is supposed to ask the woman out. You’re supposed to impress us, gather up the courage to ask us out, pay for our dinners, and generally tempt us into giving you what you want.”

Unfortunately, with the habit of paying on dates, a man can also attract the wrong women.

If a woman is trying to induce a man to pay on every date, or if she never offers to split the bill, or if she asks questions about what line of work a man he’s in, or what kind of car he drives, beware as one can label her a gold-digger.

Let’s get a final insight.

Until fairly recently, modern roles for men and women were fixed and separated. This will sound very cliché but men were supposed to go out and earn money. Women were supposed to stay home and take care of the kids. Thus, men – especially those who came from a patriarcal background – used their financial wealth as a way of trying to control women.

Whereas women often manipulated their men through emotional outbursts and sexual innuendos.

Next came (and is still coming) a stage in which men and women both sought to balance their masculine and feminine inner facets toward “fifty/fifty”, becoming more like one another. For instance, in the US in the 60s, men began to acknowledge their feminine dimension by adding a sensitive side to their character – or by growing long hair. Meanwhile, many women were doing just the opposite. They gained financial and political independence. They learned to be more assertive.

It was a good thing for men to gradually get in touch with their feminine side and women to embrace their masculine facet. They became less dependent on each other. In terms of social roles, men and women became more similar. This was an improvement for everyone.

But this is not without side effects. Indeed this trend toward sexual similarity can be seen as a major cause of today’s unhappiness in a lot of couples. The trend toward parity has resulted in socio-economic equality, but also in sexual neutrality.

Today, a lot of men have this intuition about sexual polarity but they express their masculinity wrongly, by trying to demonstrate financial or physical superiority.

In the end, it is ok for women to be men’s social equals. What men should cultivate is their ability to play their masculine part in moments of intimacy, by demonstrating leadership and direction, not by putting their money on the table.

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Hey, Vicky here, I have to be careful using my name due to the potential drama and to protect the innocent (hee hee). Boy, do I have some reality stories to tell you, and they are all true and will be everlasting. I’m going to share with you all about the drama that goes on these days in my life and all the crazy, messy, fun drama I’ve had in the past. It is really hard trying to figure out where to start telling my story, but I finally made a choice. I chose to start with my most ‘Embarrassing Moment’ ever. Not only is it embarrassing, it is hilarious when I think back on it.

Okay, here is how it goes: There’s this guy that I am totally attracted to. He’s not just tall, dark and handsome; I mean he’s eye-catching and gorgeous, desirable to look upon. His athletic build is rock hard and well defined. You notice his broad shoulders and bulging muscles in his arms as he moves about. Then he smiles at you and your cares are taken away and he makes you light up from the inside out. On top of that he has a great, fun loving personality with a strong sense of humor that keeps you laughing and smiling all the time. He always has a flattering remark for the ladies. What makes him so special to me is his charm, a type of magic that lures me to him. This man is confident and knows he is desired, but does not need to prove it to those around him. A charming man that can make my heart laugh will capture me every time.

This man literally leaves me speechless, and that’s rare for me because I am one of the biggest flirts out there. I get a charge sparing with the opposite sex by us teasing and tempting each other. Don’t get it twisted, though, I’ve slowed down quite a bit, but I can usually go toe to toe flirting with someone. I may tempt and tease, but that’s as far as it’ll go. Everyone thinks I’ll follow through, but not these days. Back in the day is another drama story all together. I’ll have to tell you those everlasting stories much later.

Okay, back to my embarrassing moment. Now this guy, I’ll call him Denzel : ), he knows I have the hots for him and we flirt with each other all the time. Late one Sunday night I ran out to the grocery store for just a minute. What makes this night ironic is, before I got out of my vehicle I took a look into my rear view mirror and thought to myself while laughing, how terrible it would be if I saw Denzel at the store tonight. This was because I was looking absolutely horrible that night. This means I was tore up! Since I no longer work in Corporate America and work from home, I don’t keep up with my appearance like I should. You’d better believe that this Sunday night was no exception. I walked into the store exhausted from the day with a dingy brown coach scarf thrown around my head which didn’t match anything I had on. Once again, I was only going in for a minute. I had this sloppy, light blue t-shirt hanging below my blue jean jacket. My jeans were at least two sizes too big, so big that the crotch hung midway to my knees and straight legged at that. I’m wearing my mother’s big white keds that made my feet look like ‘Carnival Cruise Ships’. I was just looking a hot mess. To top it all off, I have some premature gray that shows in my eyebrows and of course, I didn’t cover it up this night. I go through the store quickly, scared to go by the glass doors in the freezer case, cause I’m hiding from my luminous reflection (hee hee).

So, here I am in the check-out putting my things on the conveyer belt while attempting to add up my cost. All of a sudden I hear this enthusiastic sexy voice singing in my ears. That’s right, it’s Denzel in the next lane. I look up at this absolutely gorgeous man, with the million dollar smile saying ‘Hey, what’s up, Vicky?’ (oh my goodness, I am laughing with tears in my eyes just thinking about it again). At that moment, I could have melted into the floor from embarrassment. I wanted to drop to my knees and crawl out of the store.

This was one of those “Wanna Get Away?” moments from the Southwest Airline commercials. How in the world am I going to fix this tore up moment? Suddenly, my long lost prayer life had been miraculously found again. I started praying, “Please God, help him see Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry as he’s talking to me!” I started feeling very warm, like I wanted to faint. My stomach is now bubbling and hurting. Usually, we would greet each other with this warm and very hearty hug, but not this time. I dare not move out of my lane, and for what, so he could get a good look at all this. I can’t even remember much of what was said, because I was concentrating on just getting my horrible looking self out of his sight. I practically ran out of there while praying not to trip over my ‘cruise ships’.

The next morning I couldn’t wait to tell my friends about what happened. I know the ladies can relate to this. They were all feeling my pain and being very sympathetic, saying ‘Oh my goodness’ ‘how terrible’. No one wants to be embarrassed in this way. Then all of a sudden and out of nowhere, we all Cracked Up! We laughed so hard that our sides began to hurt. We sometimes will laugh at that today and I will get that same pain in my stomach.

Well I learned a valuable lesson that night and hope you take heed in it. “DON’T TAKE YOUR TORE UP #%$ OUT OF THE HOUSE LOOKING LIKE THAT”. Since that day, almost a year ago, I have not worn a scarf out in public, had my gray eyebrows showing, or left my lips looking anything other than luscious.

Now I make sure I keep myself looking like my net worth ($1m) or at least half of that, especially since I just might run into ‘Denzel’ : )

Oh yeah, I threw those jeans in the garbage that night!